Life Coaches in Cahoots
Life Coaches in Cahoots
21: Coach Robbie Critchley - Oola Blocker Self-Sabotage
Episode 21
Date Recorded: October 6, 2023
Title: Coach Robbie Critchley – Oola Blocker: Self-Sabotage
Description: Robbie is a seasoned dental hygienist with over three decades of experience, and her journey in life has been enriched by a 38-year marriage to Don, two wonderful children, and the joy of being a grandparent to six precious grandchildren. Her story is one of resilience and personal transformation, fueled by her desire to always seek more in life. In 2020, she became an Oola Life Coach, embracing this role to overcome adversity and help others of all ages discover their passions and purpose.
Life has a way of throwing challenges our way. In Robbie’s case, depression and a shoulder injury brought her to a crossroads. It was during this time that she discovered Oola, and it became her guiding light towards healing and balance. Robbie’s experience with Oola not only helped her overcome adversity but also inspired her to become an Oola Life Coach.
Robbie understands the profound fear of both failure and success. These fears have been her companions on her journey, but they have not defined her. Instead, they have driven her to seek more, to transcend her limits, and to find the path to personal transformation. Today, as an Oola Life Coach, Robbie is dedicated to helping individuals of all ages discover their dreams, passions, and purpose. She firmly believes that it's never too late to pursue one's goals and lead a life filled with meaning and fulfillment.
Robbie’s life story is a testament to the power of resilience, personal growth, and the unwavering belief that no matter your age or circumstances, you can find your purpose and live your dreams. She is committed to being a beacon of hope and guidance for others on their journey to a balanced, purposeful, and fulfilling life. Together, we'll conquer fears, overcome obstacles, and embrace the limitless potential that life offers.
How to connect with Robbie:
On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rcritchley1
On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oola_tutu
Websites: https://www.robbiecritchley.InteleTravel.com
and https://www.blsandcprtraining.com
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Hello and welcome everyone. Today we are going to discuss the second Oola blocker, self sabotage. As a reminder, Oola blockers are those things that hold you back from living your Oola life. And today, we have coach Robbie Critchley here with us to talk more about why it is so important that we stop self sabotage in its tracks. Robbie is a seasoned dental hygienist with over three decades of experience, and her journey in life has been enriched by a 38 year marriage, two children, and six grandchildren. Her story is one of resilience and personal transformation, fueled by her desire to always seek more in life. In 2020, she became an Oola Life Coach, embracing this role to overcome adversity and help others of all ages discover their passions and purpose. Life has a way of throwing challenges our way, and in Robby's case, depression and a shoulder injury brought her to a crossroads. It was during that time that she discovered Oola, and it became her guiding light towards healing and balance. Robby's experience with Oola not only helped her overcome adversity, but also inspired her to become an Oola Life Coach. And as an Oola Life Coach, Robby is dedicated to helping individuals of all ages discover their dreams, passions, and purpose. She firmly believes that it's never too late to pursue one's goals and lead a life filled with meaning and fulfillment. I am Coach Stephanie, and I am here today with Coach Melinda, my co host, and a coach who will be the guiding light on your path to Oola, Coach Robbie Critchley. Hi,
Robbie:Melinda.
Melinda:Hello, hello. I'm Coach Melinda. Stephanie and I are on a mission to showcase some of our fabulous Oola Life coaches and share their stories. We are very excited to introduce Robbie Critchley to our listeners today as she shares about herself and the Oola Blockers self sabotage. Welcome, Robbie, and thanks for joining us today. Thank
Robbie:you for having me. This is an honor. Hey, Robbie. So self sabotage and all the
Stephanie:Oola Blockers. They're not necessarily fun topics, but definitely important ones. So I like to start out our interview with a little bit lighter topics. So why don't you share with our listeners some of the things you like to do
Robbie:for fun? Oh, that's not one of the things I ever have a problem with. Fun is an easy thing for me, but I'm very family oriented. Like you said, we have, kids and grandkids. So we try to spend a lot of time, Involved with what they do, and even though they live out of town, we traveled to, Be involved in their lives. and then also my friends. I, have a group of ladies that live here in Napa with me that we go out once a month. And then also once a month, I host, a paint night, which is a lot of fun. Cause it's a potluck. We paint, we eat, we chat, so I'm always doing something to, have that fun balance in my life. And I have lots of hobbies. I love to. Knit and crochet and, Melinda, I promise you'll still get your scarf. It's still in the works. So yeah, but I also like to be home. I'm a homebody as well. If I don't have to, you know, be out and about. I was a
Stephanie:recipient of one of your hats that you made and it saved me at Oolapalooza last year when it was so cold. So thanks again for that. Sure. so we know that you have been a dental hygienist for over 30 years, because I just said that in your
Robbie:intro. And
Stephanie:obviously you're a certified Oola Life coach, but I know that you have other side hustles too.
Robbie:So you want to share some of those with us? Sure. with my shoulder injury, I knew that hygiene was going to be coming too. An end at some point, because just physically I can't do it a lot. So I became a certified CPR and basic life support trainer instructor earlier this year. And also, a friend of mine, has a side hustle as the travel agent and believe it or not years ago, that was something I had looked into, but. It was all brick and mortar. So I couldn't leave my hygiene job to do that. this is a home based business. So I'm having fun now planning travel for other people and, traveling ourselves and getting paid to do it. Also like I said, in my bio, it's my life has been transforming a lot in the last five years. but I think I have found my. Okay. Space now, with all of these other side hustles now.
Melinda:I love that. Is there, do you know, is there a specific amount of time that a dental hygienist usually stays in the field? Is there an average?
Robbie:No, I don't think so. The majority of the people that I went to school with, have been in the business, at least 25 years, but I was, very blessed that I didn't have to work full time. So I think that's 1 of the reasons why my, Stay in the field has been longer. and actually my shoulder issue is not due to hygiene. It's due to being in multiple accidents and spinal issue, but it is now manifesting to where I can't do hygiene like I used to. So, which is sad because I love it. You know, That has always been a passion, but, as we, our seasons change, so do, our other things in our lives. And so I'm just, graciously and, humbly taking it, that this is a new season for me.
Melinda:Tell us how you first discovered Oola.
Robbie:I'm sure like a lot of the other coaches you've interviewed, I learned about them through the oils that they had with Young Living and, it intrigued me as to why there were these Different seven oils that had Oola, with it. So I got the book and I read the book and, at that time, again, like, Stephanie said in my bio, I was, dealing with depression and thought that this was a great system to help me to figure out why, and I was always, going through these phases of depression and maybe finding the root to it. And it really did help me to see where some of that came from. And so after finishing the book, again, some stuff in life happened and I ended up having to have some back surgery and then COVID hit. So it's like, Oh, I've got to do something. And it's like, well, Oola's helped me to figure out so much in my life. Why not help others to do the same? Because, so many women. and men too, but for me, women suffer from depression and they don't understand why, and having gone through the Oola book and then going through the coaching process, I really found a huge, benefit to it all because it opened my eyes as to some of the root issues that were causing it. even though I know some of it is, chemically imbalanced within our lives, but, if you can control and work on the things that you can work on, so it helped me to really, transition to understanding my depression more than just suffering through it.
Melinda:That's a great answer. I think, Oola, for each and every one of us that now coaches it, that we have practiced it for some time, and it's way more than just coaching. Tell us, what is your favorite thing about Oola, the Mind and Body Company, for you, that
Robbie:works for you? Well, of course, I'm a huge advocate of the framework, because that is what helped me to... Learn more about me, understand more about me, and help me to get through not just the depression, but you know, everyday life. I have to say that for me, the community of friends that I have made that are there to support me as not only a coach, but when I need that personal support has been phenomenal. that's how I met you ladies and I would not trade. Any of that for, any, you know, amount of gold because the friendships and the accountability partners I have, and just the love that I get from everybody is worth everything to me, even though we live in different states. I mean, people don't understand that through Oola, you don't have to be my next door neighbor to help me through what I'm going through, I can pick up that, that phone. And have that support and feel that love through a phone call or a Zoom call. And that's to me, one of the most amazing things about the Oola. Business, company, you know, everything. That is so true.
Melinda:We are all very fortunate to have Robbie on our path. One of these days I will come to Napa and I will paint with you in person. I still haven't done that paint thing. I talk about it a lot, but it never happens.
Robbie:We'll have to have to figure out when you guys can come.
Stephanie:Yeah, I'll drink the wine and Melinda
Melinda:can paint and I can paint I've
Stephanie:done one of those painting things and my mom said it was good.
Robbie:That's what everybody says and it's all, it's just fun. Yeah, it is fun.
Melinda:So let's briefly talk about what we feel sets ULA apart from other comp from other companies. Well,
Robbie:I kind of mentioned that already with the, the community. And the, the framework, but there's just so many things, the fact that, Oola is all about everything from your mind, trying to get everything balanced in your life to then also your body to make the physical parts of your body, balanced. So, really it is a total, company, their, you know, mind and body and people don't realize how important that is. They seem to only take 1 piece of it to try and help themselves and Oola has figured out how to combine the 2, and, there's so many companies out there that are. Selling products to help your physical system to work properly, but if you don't have the right mindset and the right tools to get that portion of your, total system repaired, rebalanced, you, you'll never have the whole, and I think that's what is wonderful about Oola is They are working on continually bringing the whole body and mind together to keep people. Balanced. I think you just said
Melinda:it at least three times like the key is the balance. There's so much to the mind and the body and the lifestyle, but it's finding that balance. And yeah, that was a fabulous answer. Couldn't have said it better myself. Well,
Robbie:thank you. As I mentioned earlier,
Stephanie:we are going to be discussing the Oola Blocker of self sabotage today. Which we have to acknowledge that we have to overcome these blockers to get that balance. Self sabotage is the most subconscious blocker of them all and can be viewed as the silent killer of Oola. So Robbie, how do you define self sabotage?
Robbie:Well, it's that unconscious, beast that can stop you in your tracks because You don't feel worthy or, competent enough within yourself to attain your goals. self sabotage is a huge blocker for me and has been, I've always been a dreamer and I've always been told, Oh, you can't do that. you'll never gain that. Well, then you start believing it. And that self sabotage. Then become so subconscious that in the things that you're trying to do, it stops you because those words from the past come back and say, you can't do that. so, for me, it's that subconscious negative talk that has built up over the years that stops me at least from reaching my goals and my dreams. Right. And I think
Stephanie:self sabotage is. I have to say one of the most common, Oola blockers that people experience, I don't feel like I'm gonna be successful,
Robbie:so why
Stephanie:bother? Can you share a time when self sabotage has
Robbie:occurred in your life? Well, even as a coach, I have to say, I still struggle from it on a daily basis, because we're trying to, be coaches and help others. And, with me also, transitioning into these two new businesses, that negative self negativity comes into my mind and it's, it's kind of slows you down. Are you really, good enough to help other people or are you trained enough to teach somebody else and, especially, with my new travel business. You haven't traveled the world, how can you help other people travel the world, so you just, it comes in on a, a daily basis, even though we've, overcome it and, in your conscious mind, the steps to get past it, it still comes up and it, for me, it slows me down, So, I can't say that it was just one time that it really manifested. It kind of has throughout my life. And that's why I think when we were talking at Oolapalooza last year, Stephanie, I said, this is the one that I struggle with the most, is self sabotage because even though you know it as a coach and can help other people through it, and, this is life, it's always harder to help yourself to work through things. And so for me, self sabotage is something I work on on a daily basis because another one of the Oola blockers, fear. You know, fear of success and fear of failure also plays in for me to self sabotage again, because it's that lack of self worth, lack of self confidence. So, it's always, continually working to know and understand that self sabotage is there, but what are you going to do to, get past it? That's a good answer, too.
Melinda:Let's elaborate on self sabotage a little bit. Let's talk about some of the behaviors that we see in our clients that are actually more than just the negative self talk. What kind of other things do we see that people do to self sabotage themselves in everyday life?
Robbie:it can manifest in a lot of things. If one of your things is you're trying to lose weight. You overeat or you closet eat, it can be, not a staying on, your meal plan, so you self sabotage by, oh, it won't hurt to have that snack, and, even bad relationships, people, will create trauma. Within a relationship to self sabotage that relationship, because for some reason, they may not think that again, it has a lot to do with self worth that they're worthy of that relationship.
Melinda:I think I'm, I'm guilty of that one right there that you just said, like, in my past, I have had
Robbie:that happen. I, I think you all have. And then I have
Melinda:seen some really important close friends and family that I love who turn to self-medicating and, different things. An addiction ruled then to self-sabotage.
Robbie:Yeah,
Stephanie:my example is I have seen, clients procrastinate, a lot. Oh, sure. Instance, because They don't think they can do it. So they just put it
Robbie:off. Right.
Melinda:So we have all of these, blockers, but what do we think is the number one Oola accelerator that someone could use to combat the Oola blocker of self sabotage?
Robbie:what I always try to help with with clients and friends, and even myself is. Passion, what was it that made you fall in love with that person? Want to do that business, want to get that degree, dive back into that passion that fired you up at the beginning and realize that that passion is your fuel to get you through that self sabotage and that also, passion can overcome some of that. Negative self talk and that, unworthiness because it really does make you remember why, your why, why you're wanting to do what you're doing to achieve that goal to reach that dream. So for me, passion and it's really difficult because sometimes you have to sit there and really dive deep into, yeah, this is what I said. And my passion was. But really, is that your driving force? So that's what I, I feel passion. You have to find that and refine it and continue to go back to why you're doing what you're doing to get over the self sabotage.
Melinda:Which one of the accelerators is your favorite that works
Robbie:the most for you? discipline, because that's, because for me, I really fall off of stuff. So to remember my passion and then to use discipline and I'm a list girl. so to get my list done, to know that this is what I have to do day in and day out, send me to an office. I'm great. Because I know exactly what my schedule is, when I have to see patients. So I have no leeway, but at home with, coaching and because everything is home based, You can go do the laundry. You can go to the grocery store to, get your focus off of what you're doing. So, for me, discipline is huge because that way I have my, my not necessarily minute by minute, but I have an hourly, you know, list of things that I need to get done, throughout the day. How about you, Steph?
Melinda:Do you have a favorite accelerator for yourself?
Robbie:my
Stephanie:favorite accelerator is discipline. I mean, I if it's down in my app,
Robbie:I'm doing it. So, you know, I'm the
Stephanie:make your bed every morning gal. So
Robbie:I think
Melinda:mine is love, actually, not just so much as in love and everybody, which I do, but loving yourself too. And I'm that girl that high fives myself in the mirror in the morning. You know, I truly believe you have to love yourself. And you have to take care of yourself to take care of everybody
Robbie:else. So, yeah. that's a big one also for self sabotage, because if you don't love yourself, you're going to be sabotaging everything that you're, going out to do, because there's not enough love within yourself to make it, you know, I keep saying worthy and unworthy, but it really does come back to that for self sabotage. You have to feel love and self worth to stop, the sabotage. I couldn't agree more.
Stephanie:Okay, so we're going to move on past the self sabotage segments, and we are asking all the coaches on our show some questions similar to the Pruist questionnaire, which became popular from a parlor game created by Marcel Pruist, a French essayist and novelist. Who believed that in answering 35 questions, an individual reveals his or her true nature. And we always say, don't worry, we're only asking you five.
Robbie:Okay,
Stephanie:the first one we picked is tell us something in your life that has grown out of a personal disaster.
Robbie:well, I I had a niece that, developed cancer at two and a half, and she passed at nine. And in that short span of her life, she taught me A lot of life lessons, which you wouldn't expect from a little child, but to live life to the fullest, and this was right when that song, I hope you dance comes out when she was sick. So whenever I hear that song, if you're ever with me, you will see me just totally break down and cry because I realized with that song that she wouldn't get to do a lot of the things that my kids would get to do. And my daughter's only, see, this is the stuff that makes me cry. My daughter's only three months younger. So in watching my daughter grow up and not with her cousin has shown me that all of these things are blessings. That we take for granted, and so it's have fun. tell those, and I know these sound so cliche, but, tell people you love them because tomorrow is never promised. And so for me, I've lived my life that way. And I've had people criticize me for that because I, would take my kids and do fun things when they would think that, I was doing too much, but you know what? Watching that little girl live her ultimate life in that short span of time taught me that you have to just live. And no matter how painful it is, you live with a smile on your face because other people are going through so much more. So talking
Melinda:about smiles on your face, tell us when and where you have ever been the happiest.
Robbie:I have to say right now, the season that I'm in right now with our family and our youngest granddaughter is almost two. So, we go and we can do fun things for the day as a group. they came over the other night for dinner and they're screaming out in the backyard playing. And to me, that's just joyful music because the cousins are getting along. I'm here having adult conversations with my children. And. and I'm married to my best friend, we've known each other since seventh grade. So, life right now couldn't be any better other than my shoulder issue. You know, let's be real. There is a little bit of, I think as we, go through life, there's always those moments that we think are the best time, but right now we are really living a great, time. we can travel, we can play with our grandkids, and, uh, just spend time with each other, last night. I threw something back at Don that he threw at me and I thought he was going to snort when he was laughing so hard. so it's those fun moments that are just those quiet moments at home too. So do you think
Melinda:that Oola has played into the happy part you're at now in life?
Robbie:Most definitely. because of the fact that I now Understand so much more about myself having gone through the coaching, but then also using the framework and, it's an ongoing process to learn and dive deeper into finding out what, the root things are that, why you think the way you do, why you do the things you do. But Oola has opened my eyes as to, how to, first, like we say, call it out, recognize it. then to realize, am I going to sit here in it and wallow in it or am I going to move past it and, continue to feel best part of my life? So yeah, no, Oola is a huge part in everything that I do now. And it's so funny because my friends are like, I'm sure you guys hear it. Don't ula me You know, it's like, sorry. It's, it's ingrained in my soul now and in the fiber of my being. So, yeah, you're gonna get Ula. I do hear that Me too.
Melinda:So what, what relationship defines love for you? And this can be real or fictional.
Robbie:Okay, now this again, is gonna make me probably get very teary-eyed and cry. So I'm adopted. And I was adopted at three days old and growing up, we were told my sister and I are both adopted and our, adopted parents always told us that, you were loved twice as much. And I'm not saying that, to, downgrade anybody else's parents love the way my, my mom would always say it is your biological mother loved you up and not. And the pregnancy, that came in later, of course, but, she loved you enough to give you a different life, a better life. And there was a couple, meaning my parents that were willing to also give you that life. So to me, and once I became a mother, understanding that, that love and that. unconditional love of giving someone up as a baby for a better life has always been huge to me. And so that to me shows the ultimate of what love is, from both sides, the biological parent and the adopted parent. What person, place or experience has shaped you the most? My, my mom, she, was a very, very strong, silent type, for the most part, of course, we all get in trouble and yelled at by our parents, but, she was always My father was very is, and he still is very loving. My mom has passed, but she was always that one that even though you didn't realize that she was actually there supporting you, she always was, in her silent way. And I found that out when I was actually in college, because I was one of those kids that did everything, I, I cheerleaded, I danced, all of that stuff. And I was in a college class with one of my mom's co workers. And she says, Oh my gosh, you're Carol's daughter. And I said, Oh yeah, she goes, she talks about you and your sister all the time. And I went, huh? Cause you know, it wasn't, portrayed that way at home. so it was that, but the love was always there and you always knew it. and you know, I was able to talk to her about everything. So, but it was funny to find out that in that. Space of other realm that was not part of our family. She was just talking away about us, which is, it was fun to find out. I said my mom too, when I answered that question. Well, they do play a huge part in our lives, you know, whether we understand it or realize it. Right. Tell my daughter that. And then we, and then we start sounding like them. Right. So the last of the first
Stephanie:questions, what advice would you give to your younger
Robbie:self? I'm going to go right back to that word worthy, that you are worthy of everything that your brain dreamed of. Because like I said earlier, you know, there were so many people in my life that said, Oh, that dream's too big. Or you can't do that. you don't have the, the brain power or the understanding or the time. Um, you do, we all have that time for our dreams and to, to reach out and to get our dreams because of the fact that. You really do. And are worthy of everything that you can think of and dream of and don't let anybody tell you different or make you feel that they're better than you and that they deserve it and you don't or let self sabotage
Melinda:come and get
Robbie:you exactly, exactly. But we
Melinda:are also asking all the coaches on our show if they have taken an Enneagram test. And for anyone out there unfamiliar, the Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns and how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. Have you taken an Enneagram test? And if so, what
Robbie:is your number? Yes, I have. And my number is two Oh, figure
Melinda:two is the helper. Do you wanna talk about what the helper is or would you
Robbie:like us to, why don't you guys?'cause you are much more familiar with it than I am. Okay. But I think it did hit the, the nail on the head, at least for me.
Melinda:Okay. So helpers are kind and generous, warmhearted and loving. They are motivated by the need to be helpful to others. They are attentive. Appreciative, generous, warm, playful, and nurturing. Twos have a knack for making others feel special and loved. They often prefer to work with people and usually have a large circle of acquaintances. Twos guard relationships fiercely and prioritize decisions according to the potential impact the outcome will have on those they care about. They are the ideal team players, always opting for self sacrifice over self promotion and happy to take on extra work when others are overloaded or in a jam. I think you're right, you are too. That describes
Robbie:you, yes. Yeah, that was pretty scary as to how accurate it is.
Melinda:One of our other favorite questions is to ask if you have a quote or a motto that you live by
Robbie:or value. My favorite quote is a quote from Martin Luther King, and it's that faith is taking the first step, whether you can see the whole staircase or not. And, so many of us hold back on experiences and just because we can't see what that end result might be. And so, again, this is another thing going back to my niece, Brianna, that I learned is you never know what that outcome is going to be. So just take that first step and find out because, you know, it may end up to be something that you don't want. But it may be something that just brings you so much joy or so much fulfillment. But if you didn't take that first step, you're never going to know. And it's always going to be, well, what if, and I don't want to live in what if. I like that quote too.
Stephanie:It's a good one. Well, this has been fantastic, Robbie. We can't thank you enough for joining us today. Is there anything that we didn't ask you that you'd like
Robbie:to add? Um, I don't think so. No. So we're pretty thorough then? I think so. I'm just trying to,
Stephanie:Well, I can ask you one more question. What advice do you have for our listeners who are struggling with self
Robbie:sabotage in their own lives? Well, if you're not part of Oola, look into getting with someone that can help you find that system that can help you. And if not, gosh, I don't even know if there's really something else I can recommend because Oola has the whole thing. it really has shown me how self sabotage is stopping me and how to get past it. So I guess what you should do is look at your life now. And I know that this is another Oola philosophy. Look at your life where you are now. What's holding you back? Where do you see yourself? If you don't change that in the next month, year, five years, and if it's somewhere you don't want to be because the self sabotage is holding you back, then find that passion or love, discipline to get you past it, because if you're not happy where you are and you're self sabotaging yourself now, nothing's going to change unless you find. Stepping stone to overcome what's holding you where you are. That
Stephanie:is really good advice. Before we part ways, we want to let you know that our next episode will showcase coach Colette Picard and the next Oola blocker of laziness. We want to remind you that we are all designed for greatness and purpose. Stress less, feel better, and enjoy life a little more. Thanks again for being on our show today,
Robbie:Robbie. Thank you again for having me.
Stephanie:And goodbye, everyone.
Bye.
