12: Coach Julie Phillips - Oola Accelerator Love

Episode 12

Date Recorded:  May 12, 2023

Title:  Coach Julie Phillips- Oola Accelerator Love

Description:  

Julie Phillips is an outgoing, outspoken Oklahoma gal who has been married to the love of her life for 9 years. Together, she and her husband have 5 adult children, 9 grandchildren and one great grand that bring them so much joy. 

Julie has been a longtime interior decorator/designer who felt called to coaching 5 years ago.  She has always loved helping people decorate and design their homes, and now she gets to help them design their best lives! 

She’s a sucker for succulents and sunshine, she can’t get enough of her gorgeous grands, she can barely resist her hubby’s homemade popcorn with a glass of wine, and she’ll admit that a little java and a lotta Jesus is what gets her through each day. 

To reach Julie Phillips, go to  www.epiphany-effect.com/coachjules and or you can follow her on Social Media.

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Transcript

Melinda: 1:09

Hey, it's Melinda and welcome to Life Coaches

Julie: 1:12

in Cahoots podcast. Today I'm excited to

Melinda: 1:15

introduce to you Julie Michelle

Julie: 1:18

Phillips, or Coach Jules as we know her.

Melinda: 1:22

Coach Jules is an outgoing, outspoken Oklahoma gal who has been married

Julie: 1:27

to the love of her life for

Melinda: 1:28

nine years. Together. She and her husband have five adult children, nine grandchildren, and one great grandbaby that brings them much joy. Julie has been a longtime interior decorator designer who felt called to coaching five years ago. She has always loved helping people decorate and design their home, and now she gets to help them design their lives

Julie: 1:54

as well. She's a sucker for

Melinda: 1:56

succulents and sunshine. She can't get enough of her gorgeous grants. She can barely

Julie: 2:02

resist her. He's homemade popcorn with a glass of

Melinda: 2:05

wine and she'll admit that a little Java and a lot

Julie: 2:08

of Jesus is what gets her through each day. It is

Melinda: 2:12

truly a pleasure to have Julie on today's episode to talk about

Julie: 2:16

Oola and the power of love. I

Melinda: 2:19

am Coach Melinda, and we are here today with Coach Stephanie, my co-host, and a coach with a message of love is a verb.

Julie: 2:27

Stephanie and I are excited to have Julie here with us today to share about herself

Melinda: 2:33

Anulas Accelerator Love.

Julie: 2:35

Let's get started.

Stephanie: 2:38

Hi, I'm coach Stephanie. Melinda and I are on a mission to showcase some of our fabulous Oola life coaches and share their stories. And we are very excited to introduce Julie Michelle Phillips to our listeners today, welcome Julie, and thanks for joining

Julie: 2:52

us. Hello ladies. I'm so happy to be here. Thank you for having me. You're welcome. Welcome,

Melinda: 2:59

and I am delighted to have you with us today. I had an opportunity to read a blog you wrote for Oola early in my

Julie: 3:06

following days,

Melinda: 3:07

you said, love is a verb. It isn't just a feeling or some words to woo.

Julie: 3:13

Would you like to tell us a little bit about your background and what love is a verb really means for you? Well, when I wrote that blog, I was just kind of sharing a little blip of my love story with my husband and just thinking about I, it's been a while since I've even thought about that, um, what I wrote, and it brings tears to my eyes when I think about it, because I am truly so blessed to have this man as my husband. I had married my high school sweetheart, had spent 20 years with him, have three amazing kids with him, but experienced a lot of heartbreak in that relationship and it really broke me in a lot of ways, and I became very jaded. I feel like I was still a very loving, kind person, but when it came to letting people into my life, I had hardened myself and I had very much built a wall that I thought was protecting me from the world and everyone in it. And I didn't realize that I was missing out on things by having that wall and. In Oola, we do know that love is one of our accelerators and I have learned over the years, partially because of this man who chose me to be his wife, that love can tear down those walls. That love can heal a lot of things that love can, can help us let go of past things. Someone new loving you can even help you let go of things that they had nothing to do with. So we have, I mean, love is super powerful when you think about all of our accelerators. they're all amazing and, and truly we need to incorporate all of them in our lives. But when I think about love, it's probably the most powerful accelerator in my life because it propels me forward more than any of the other ones. I believe that's true.

Melinda: 5:21

A love is the thing that I hope for most everybody to experience in this lifetime. Yeah, I do believe love is the number one and, there's so much more to love than just your soulmate. Love, like, love has so many meanings, and I'm so glad we're here doing this today. Can you tell us how you were introduced to Oola and how did you know Oola was the coaching program that you wanted to share?

Julie: 5:47

I first learned about Oola just like many people. I happened to cross a video that Dave and Troy had done at some point in time, and I was sucked in by their incredible energy. so I started following them and the word Oola became something, you know, Became part of my world. I bought the book, my husband and I read it, um, and loved the guys just following them on social media. I'm kind of a personal development junkie, so anybody that I connect with that kind of brings that same energy and, constantly makes me wanna be better. They say things that inspire me every time I hear them. I'm sucked in I had no idea that they were going to launch a coaching program, but shortly before they did that, about a year before they did that, I had been feeling like God was stirring something inside me to shift. To move to something different, and I didn't know what that looked like because I loved what I was doing. I was, uh, working full-time as an interior decorator. Loved my job, loved my clients, loved getting to be creative. Every single day. I. Um, but I truly felt like God was like saying, I have something new for you. And I didn't know what that looked like. Well, with a lot of prayer and a lot of consideration and, and lots of people like just randomly saying, Julie, have you thought about being a life coach? Just outta the blue. I started to like, research what even is that like, it sounded kind of woowoo to me. and I was not looking for a new career, so I. But I started researching it and I ended up investing in a program and becoming a certified life coach through a completely different program and launched my business. started having success right away, which I was so, so grateful for. And that was just like confirmation that God had brought me to this. Um, started a little bit by little bit letting go of more, interior decorating stuff. and then in, I think it was the summer of 2019. The guys launched there that they announced that they were gonna have a coaching program I. Was like, I need to align myself with this company. I knew that Oola always included the faith piece and the program that I was working with didn't include that piece. And that's a huge piece to me. So it was something I was incorporating with my clients on my own. So I sat in the driveway and I just said this little prayer, okay, God, you know, I've already spent money on this other program. I dunno how to bring to my husband, hi, I think I need to do this too, you know? Um, so I just said that little prayer and that was, it went inside. My husband was in bed watching a baseball game and. Got ready, crawled in bed and he's watching the game. And I was like, I wanna listen to this again. So I'm quietly next to him. I have it on, but he's zoned into the game. You know, we're kind of doing our own thing. And I'm sitting there listening to Dave again, and about 10 minutes in to Dave's spiel, my husband hits pause and he looks at me, he goes, you're gonna do this. Right? And so that was like, Yes. Yes. he had heard my complaints with the program that I'd had, and I wish that they'd do this, and I wish that they had this. so that's what brought me to, to being an Oola coach. And, it's, in my opinion, it's the best coaching program out there. That helps me every day become a better coach.

Melinda: 9:29

Is faith one of the top seven Fs that you

Julie: 9:32

love to coach? Absolutely. And again, I didn't really like when you go into this and you're doing something new, you don't know how it's all gonna shake out. You have something in your mind, but you don't really know what it's gonna look like. When I first came to this, I thought, okay, my end all be all niche is I'm going to help women who have been through divorce. Figure out who they are because I think we get lost in being the mom, being the spouse, all those things. To the point that I know for me, when I walked out of that 20 year relationship, I wasn't even sure who I was anymore. So I felt like that's who my, my audience is gonna be. That's who my client will be. And I have discovered it. Yes, I have some of that, but it there, there's so much more. and part of it really has become the faith piece I have. Been honored and blessed to help a number of clients, and I would say these are my favorite experiences as a coach. Is helping a number of clients who would say they didn't have faith anymore. They, that that piece was lacking from their life and they didn't even know that they wanted it or needed it because they were jaded in some way about it. to have them come full circle and have that really actually be kind of their hub that keeps them going every day. So, I would say yes, absolutely. Faith is huge for me. That's beautiful. Faith is huge for me now that I have Oola, so I think, yes, you described me. Yeah. Well, and when we talk about love, love and faith to me go hand in hand. Like the reason that I feel like I can love so freely and so. Well because, and I think I do love well, um, is because of that faith piece. And I think if I was missing that I wouldn't be able to offer love in the ways that I do or receive love in the ways that I do. So they go hand in hand. Did you share more,

Stephanie: 11:35

about your coaching business with our listeners and what the epiphany effect is all about?

Julie: 11:42

So the epiphany effect is the name of my business, and I chose that because I wanted clients to have moments of revelation, their aha moments that moved them forward. And again, when I first started this business, I thought, it was gonna be exclusively about me coaching. You know, divorced women and them finding a way to move forward. But I have found women in general and, and probably true for men, but I, I coach women with the exception if I do also coach couples. I coach women of all ages and really what I help them do is I. Get out of the box that I believe we often go into because of what the world expected of us. maybe it was our upbringing, maybe we were told this is who you should be or who, what you are or, how you should, how you should be. And in my case, it, I was put in a box As a kid, I was raised super, super conservative, Christian. and in my mind, I could grow up and be a school teacher, a pastor's wife, a mom, like those were my options. And I didn't necessarily fit in that box, but I was trying to fit in that box because I thought that's what I was supposed to do. And then, You know, I was with my children's father for 20 years and I poured myself into his dreams. Everything that he aspired to do or be like, I poured myself into that and helped him build successful businesses and like encompassed, like I became what he needed and wanted for his life. And in, in doing that, I lost me. I'm not saying that what I was doing as a mom and a wife weren't things that we should do as moms and wives, but I think we also need to recognize we were created with purpose and value and, what is that in us that's unique to us? So, when I'm, when I'm coaching clients now, that's really what I focus on is helping them find out. Who they really are and, and sometimes we don't know. So I'm very honored that I get to do that too. As coaches,

Stephanie: 13:57

we help people come up with their goals and, help them figure out the action steps to achieve those goals, but it's also important that we have goals of our own that we continue to work through for our work life and our personal life. So is there anything you're working on right now and. To follow up with that, do you have a Oola one goal and what are you

Julie: 14:17

doing to reach that? Yes. Yes, and yes. I always have goals. I would say my biggest goals right now are continuing to grow my coaching business, um, continuing to grow my Oola business because I. For me, it's not really about the business piece. My high is the success of my clients. Like when I see those wins, that's a big win for me. And so with each new client I get, I have the opportunity to do that. As far as a really personal goal goes, I've been focusing on my own personal fitness. I feel like in the last 10 years, 12 years, I have really had a shift, with my mental health. As far as like believing in me and, and knowing I have value and purpose and, I love that, but my physical body. It's in my fifties now, and it doesn't, it doesn't, always cooperate with me. I have, some challenges that I'm facing and so I have been working with a holistic doctor recently to kind of uncover some of those things and the best way to move forward for me, uh, I think. It used to be something where I'd put a number on it and it'd be like, I wanna lose 50 pounds by such and such a date. And now that I'm in my fifties, I recognize, first of all, my body doesn't do what it used to do. So setting that kind of goal might not be realistic for this body anymore. but also it's not just about losing the weight, it's about doing it in a healthy way. So I'm working to just be healthier. like you said earlier, I do have, an abundance of grandchildren and we are very hands-on grandparents, so we love to run and do activities with them and constantly be. Busy, busy, busy with them, and I want to always be the grandma that can do that. So I'm able to do that right now with some aches and pains. But I know when I get some weight off, it's gonna be, maybe the pain won't be quite so much. so that, I would say that is my biggest one right now. It's just focusing on my physical fitness and looking at what that looks like as a woman in her fifties. Versus me trying to repackage what I did in my thirties successfully. So it's, it's giving myself grace along the journey too, and recognizing it's not gonna look like it did in the past. For sure.

Melinda: 16:55

I think the audience can't see mine and

Julie: 16:57

Stephanie's faces, but we're both doing the head

Melinda: 17:00

nods and the smiling cuz we know what 50 is. Share with us what your definition of love

Julie: 17:06

is? Oh, wow. well, I say all the time lead with love. that, that's something I tell my clients when we're talking about relationships. That's how I try to show up every day. But when you're asking like, what does that look like? What is love? I think it's just meeting someone right where they're at and, and showing them I see you. I, I may not even fully understand why you feel the way you feel or, or whatever, but I see you and I value you. I see value in you, and giving grace, being unconditionally compassionate. And kind because love is one of those things that encompasses so many facets. it's not just this like ooey-gooey feeling. and when I met Chris, that's, that was for me. Like, you think that's what you maybe want in a husband? And yes, I have that with him, but that's not what drew me to him. What drew me to him was his. Consistency. His kindness, not just how he was to me, but how he was to others. And I think when we feel the most loved ourselves is when we feel seen and we feel valued. So when we want to love others, that's what we need to remember, like what makes me feel loved. And we all have kind of different love languages, but I think ultimately if we show up, And give people grace and try to understand and be compassionate, and understanding like just that, that, that makes them feel loved, help them be seen, help them feel seen, and that will make them feel loved. I think you just

Melinda: 18:57

effectively described how powerful love really is. I think love is one of my favorite accelerators because it is so powerful and it means so many different things. Do you know, have you, you heard of the five love languages with the words of affirmations or quality time gifts, acts of service and physical touch.

Julie: 19:20

Can

Melinda: 19:20

you share some

Julie: 19:21

of your thoughts on that and, and what is your love language? Yes, I talk about the five love languages with clients all the time, especially my couples coaching that I do, uh, because I think it's really important in relationships, but not just married relationships. I think it's really important in all relationships that we kind of understand the people that we care about and we love the most, what is their love language. And so, Because we, we have a tendency to be able to love easily in our love language, but that's not necessarily how someone else sees love. So being able to love them in their love language is, when the power really comes in. So, for example, um, my husband is one of his love languages is acts of service. This is not my love language. I'm not even very good at it. but I have have felt so loved by him, even him loving me in his love language. But I also have had to learn to show up in that way for him. Like, recognize, what can I do for him to show him today how valuable he is to me. So for me it's words of affirmation is probably my highest. And he's really good at loving me that way too. He leaves me notes, he leaves me cards. But this is one that also shows up in my friendships, like the people that I would say I feel closest to and feel safest with. We don't use that word a lot when we, when we talk about love necessarily, but to me, love is somewhere I feel safe and. I didn't recognize how much, I didn't feel that in my past life, um, because I didn't know I was missing it. You, you don't know what you don't know. But once I felt it and experienced it, it was so powerful. And so even with friendships, I would say the people I feel safest with are the ones who. Give me words of affirmation who say things to me that build me up because that is how I feel loved, and it also makes me feel seen by them.

Melinda: 21:43

How about Stephanie,

Julie: 21:43

do you know what your love language is? Yeah,

Stephanie: 21:47

so my husband actually bought that book for us to read together so many years ago, like, I mean I think that was like four states ago where, cuz we've moved a lot. But yes, mine is definitely acts of service. Like get up in the middle of the night and deal with that crying baby, or bring me a cup of coffee, uh, take out the trash without, you know, things like that. Just little things that make my life easier, which he learned

Julie: 22:13

early on. What about you, Melinda? What's yours? Mine is definitely quality time,

Melinda: 22:21

not just with the love in your life, but with also my kids. Like they are 20 and 30 and I would still scoop'em up and hold'em on my lap and hug'em if they would let me You know, yeah, I definitely want time with the family. That's my ticket. Yeah.

Julie: 22:35

How about your husband, Stephanie? What would you say his is? Oh,

Stephanie: 22:39

he's physical touch all the way.

Julie: 22:42

Totally. It's very normal for men. Sure. Um, usually if we, if they take the moment to look a little deeper, there's usually a secondary one. Most of us have a secondary one. Melinda, my secondary is yours. Like, I love the quality time too. Family time is, is, my heart is overflowing.

Stephanie: 23:06

Sometimes the most powerful love that can be experienced is finding the capacity to truly love yourself. What are your thoughts

Julie: 23:13

on this, Julie? I think that's true. I don't think that we can accept love until we've learned to be okay with us. And, and truly love ourselves. one of the things I would tell my younger self is you do not have to fit in the box that someone else has created for you. Like you were created with your own purpose and your own passions. So I would say, You know, in, in my younger life, I didn't really know how to do that because I think love felt very conditional. I think it was if you do what these people want you to do, then you're loved, and that's not really what love is. And when we ball short of fitting into those boxes that people have created for us, then it's hard to love ourselves because we feel like failures. I also have always struggled with, A D H D. I didn't realize that's what it was. When I was younger, I was diagnosed as an adult and so I always felt less than, I always felt like not enough. I didn't feel smart I any of those things, and so I didn't, I. When you're looking at yourself based on your failures, based on the things you see as failures or the, the world has defined as failures, it's hard to love yourself. But when you peel all that away and you let God just remind you how he created you, and I'm perfect for Julie. Like, that doesn't mean I don't have growth to do, but how he created me is divine and perfect and wonderful, and he put things in me that are unique to me and that's pretty amazing. And when you start looking at yourself that way, when you start recognizing the beautiful things about yourself that are unique to you, and those aren't things to be ashamed of just because they don't align with someone else or fit in someone else's box. And start loving yourself, then I think it's when you expect a higher standard from the people around you on how they treat you. Um, when you don't love yourself, you settle for a lot of things that aren't, that aren't healthy for you. And you know, I lived in a 20 year relationship that was absolutely toxic, but I didn't even know it was toxic when I was in it. It wasn't until I was out of it and began to recognize. Who I was created to be and that I am pretty amazing. And just because my brain doesn't work like everyone else's, I'm smart in my own ways and began to love myself. That's then when I started attracting healthier friendships, healthier people to love me. I think loving yourself is. Huge in being able to accept love and attract positive love and kindness and goodness to yourself. That is a great

Stephanie: 26:19

message and I, I feel like I see it posted everywhere and I hear it all the time and it's always seems like difficult for you to actually like just take it in and. Agree with it, but it's a great message for everyone to hear. And also we've got to intentionally create time to enjoy life and do the things we love. So Julie, what are your passions? What do you absolutely

Julie: 26:42

love to do? Well, all those grand babies are pretty high on my passion list. I'm super passionate about just helping my grandkids uncover who God created them to be and love themselves from the beginning. Don't want them to be in their forties before they figure out that they are valuable and amazing humans exactly how they are. So that's probably my biggest passion. I also am super passionate about doing that with my clients. So it's an all encompassing thing. I love the outdoors, I love my toes in the sand, all those kind of things. Um, and they give me momentary good feelings, but the feelings that last are the impact in people's lives. So I think you

Melinda: 27:36

just shared with us how your second passion is really quality time as a love language. Your second one? Yeah, absolutely. We are asking all of our coaches on our show some questions similar to the Pist questionnaire. And question

Julie: 27:52

number one is, tell us something challenging, something in your

Melinda: 27:56

life that has grown out of a personal

Julie: 27:59

disaster or challenge. Well, as I've shared a little bit, I would say my divorce was, Was a very defining, time for me. I was that girl that said till death to his part, and I believed it, and neither one of us were dead, so we should still be, be married. And so I really struggled with that. And struggled with trying to figure out what's my, what is my value now? What is my purpose now? Because I had poured myself into these kids and this man, and that was my full focus was these things. And I now had teenage kids that were gonna be leaving home soon and didn't have that man anymore. I felt lost and. I'll be honest, there were, very dark moments during that time period that I didn't even want to live. Like I didn't wanna wake up. I wanted to go to sleep and not wake up and not have to face the next day because it was so heavy. It just felt like too much. And what I have learned on the other side of that is, First of all, I wouldn't trade that for anything. I'm still getting weepy and teary just talking about it because it, it is still, you know, such a profound time in my life. But part of my tears are where God has brought me on the other side of that. And I think no matter what your brokenness is, no matter what your dark point is in your life, and we all have them. No matter what that dark moment is for you, there is life on the other side of that and you just have to work your way through it. That's usually something really beautiful on the other side, and God has used my hurt, my experiences so that I now can help other people that are in those same broken, dark places, and help them see. There's something more on the other side. I feel like I've been able to experience just a portion of that, and that doesn't mean I haven't had heartbreak since then. Last year was a very, very hard year. We lost a grandbaby last year, and, losing a grandson is, is one of the hardest things that I've done. in recent years and watching my daughter navigate that. But we also know there is life after this. There is, there is something more. So I would say anytime there's heartbreak, anytime there's challenges, keep going. Keep going, just keep trudging through because there are good things on the other side and we don't understand what they all are. But I promise you, if you let him, God's going to use those circumstances to help you in some amazing way, but also help you help others, and that's the biggest win That's a terrific message. And let's talk about the beautiful side of things. When and where were you the happiest you have ever been? Well, it would be easy to say it would be, you know, when I send my wedding vows on a beach at sunset to my precious husband, or anytime I have a yummy tropical drink in my hand with the sun on my face and can smell the ocean waves. But those are moments, and I think we choose happiness every day. So those were like good times. Those were good experiences. But if I'm gonna say what is my happiest that I've been, I'm gonna say today, and that's because I choose that. And that doesn't mean that everything goes right today. that doesn't mean that I didn't shed tears earlier today with my daughter over some things that are heartbreaking. but I choose happiness today and. I think there's a way for us to shift in our mind and, and find a way to look for the positive things. You know, in, in Oola we always say, be grateful, have faith. And that just sounds like, oh, what a fun little saying. But if you choose to live that out, it makes such an amazing impact in your life, and that doesn't mean you always feel. Happy or you always feel good inside, but we get to choose how we're gonna show up. And so for me, I'd say my happiest is now.

Stephanie: 32:44

you are the first coach we've had on that answered the question that way. I love that one. The next of the pers questions, what. relationship defines love for you, and it can be real

Julie: 32:57

or fictional? I would say for me, the most profound relationship that defines love is my personal relationship with Jesus. Like, I like to start my day with Java, Julie and Jesus. The three Js, because he is an example of love to me. Like if you, even if you don't resonate with Christianity, if you just look at who Jesus was and how he lived his life and how he showed up to others and how he loved others. Um, so he is the best example to me. what

Stephanie: 33:34

person, place, or experience has shaped you the

Julie: 33:36

most? Well, I lost my biological mom when I was a little girl, and. As crazy as it sounds because I had her for such a short period of time in my life, I would say it was my mom. she got cancer and honestly, most of my memories of her are in the hospital, of her very, very sick. But I remember her having very candid conversations with me about her going to heaven, about her faith. About what life was gonna look like after, after she was gone for us. And looking back now, when I became a mom, I just thought, how did she have these conversations with me? And I was this, I was this young girl, but she had a way of putting things that I didn't feel scared. I somehow understood. Um, what she was telling me to the point that my dad shares that the day he came home from the hospital and said that she had passed, I was able to comfort my dad because she had given me that kind of strength. Um, and she had from such an early age, Given me a foundation for faith. And I went through a lot of years where I was angry with God about things and frustrated over, religion and a lot of things like that. But who she was and how she showed up for me in her most difficult time, and pouring into me in, in a way that she showed such strength and such hope in such a dark place. I would say that she is the most impactful person and I aspire to be like her even though she, you know, had that just short period God, you know, came. And one of the things she said to said to me when I was little, when she knew she was dying was she told me, now you're gonna have to help daddy find you a new mommy. Now as a mom myself, like that sounds bizarre. Like. I'd be like, don't marry my man. Like I don't know what I would be thinking, but I feel like I would, it seems like I would be more selfish, but she was so selfless in knowing what me and my brother would need and knowing what my dad would need. And to me that was like such. I didn't like know it as a kid, but as an adult, as I've gone through my journey of brokenness and heartache and all the things, I look back on that and look back on her strength and just think, wow. that's the kind of faith. Faith I wanna live out every day. I would say that's who's the most impactful to me. you shared a little bit about how you would tell yourself, your younger

Melinda: 36:32

self about getting out of living inside of the box. What would you tell your younger self as that little girl? Is there anything you would

Julie: 36:40

wanna tell her? Well, I think at that point, I, I've psychoanalyzed myself a lot and I think when I lost my mom, she had empowered me in so many ways that I think the person that shows up today was that person. She got lost. Somewhere along the way. She got lost in trying to fit in the boxes of religion and expectations and, all these things that other people placed on me and, I grew up with loving parents, I, I think that we didn't compliment a lot because I, I have a feeling it was religion based in some way, but like, you don't want someone to be vain or you don't want them to have a big head or you don't want them to be prideful or whatever. So there wasn't a lot of complimenting that happened. And so I would tell younger me, You're a rockstar. Like you have so much to offer this world. You are beautiful. You are kind, you are, you shine you, you know, all these things that I felt like should be hidden away. I would say you are all those things. And then I would tell myself, you don't have to fit in that box. Like be who God created you to be and know it might not look like this person or this person. It might not be who your family thinks you should be. Um, or fit in the the confines of what you know others believe for you, but let yourself shine and. Like don't, don't be hiding that light. Let your light shine. And so that's, that's what I would tell younger me and I, I would just start doing it before I was in my forties. Well, I have all the families

Melinda: 38:25

that get a chance to listen to this. Tell all their little girls to start

Julie: 38:29

telling themselves too. Absolutely. Yeah. I know you are

Melinda: 38:33

a total quote aholic and love finding

Julie: 38:36

new ones that speak

Melinda: 38:37

to you every day. Do you have a quote or motto you value and would like to share with us?

Julie: 38:45

Oh wow. There's so many. I would say something that comes to mind for me just right off of that conversation about shining, um, is be a rainbow in someone's cloud. if anyone knows me very well, they know I love color. I love bright things. I loved the colors of the rainbow. I love rainbows. but I think every single one of us, Has the ability to, to be the rainbow in someone else's cloud. And that's part of what I purpose myself to every day when I wake up, is how can I show up for someone else to make their day better? we shouldn't make assumption assumptions about others, but find ways just to bring some sunshine, a rainbow into someone else's clouds. That's a

Melinda: 39:31

great reminder for everyone listening to this as well.

Julie: 39:34

Yeah, I love

Stephanie: 39:36

that too. I think about our interview with Coach Carrie Ford and how if that person hadn't given her that compliment about saying she liked her hair. What that meant for her. And so I personally now go out of my way when I can to compliment somebody, just whatever it is, because you never know like what people are going through. We are also asking all the coaches on our show if they have taken an Enneagram test for anyone out there unfamiliar. The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and managed their emotions. So, Jules, have you taken an Enneagram test? And if so,

Julie: 40:17

what were your results? I have taken the Enneagram test and I'm sort of obsessed with them, and this is another one of those things. In addition to like the love languages, trying to find out, you know, all the people I care about, all the people in my world, what their love language is. I also like trying to figure out what their Enneagram is because it helps us also know how to like relate better or understand how their mind works. it probably is not a shock to most people that know the Enneagram, but I am a seven, which I think is just pretty amazing since like in Oola seven is like the number, so I, I think it's a double win. Yes, I am a seven and that is typically someone who wants. Everything in life to be a party. And that is probably true for me. I don't like to do things that aren't fun. Yes, you are. I believe

Stephanie: 41:18

our fifth coach, that's a seven. And the seven is the enthusiast. Um, I have some positives I can share about the sevens. They are enthusiastic about almost everything that catches their attention. They approach life with curiosity, optimism, and a sense of adventure. Like kids in a candy store, they look at the world in wide-eyed, wrapped anticipation of all the good things they're about to experience. They are bold and vivacious, pursuing what they want in life with cheerful determination. Does that sound like you?

Julie: 41:55

It's pretty dead on. Yep. So I'm curious, what are you guys. We're not sevens. So that's why you invite sevens to your show. Right?

Stephanie: 42:08

I went through, um, thinking I was one number, and then when I did the test, I was a two, the helper.

Melinda: 42:17

I was number four, the investigator, or I was five The investigator, I think. Yeah. Yeah. I think as a coach were so many of those things and I picked four that I thought I would be, and then I wasn't those anyway.

Julie: 42:31

Yeah, I look a lot like a two in my life, like in my everyday life but I think that's the healthier version of Julie. Like I've, I've been able to eliminate some of the negatives of my seven. but also just like the role as a grandma and being in a safe place in my life and all those things, it helps me show up more as that helper. Two. So, but yeah, I've taken the test and it's actually come out like there's such a variety of tests, but I've taken it before and it's come out as a two, a couple different times. but when I read like the book and all the things, it cemented the seven. Without talking about the negatives, did the negatives resonate with you as well as the positives? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. As a seven, yes. The negatives that, that's where you really know I'm a seven, is when you look at the negatives. Because like I said, I can show up as the positive things about it too. but I think that's growth. Like I think when we grow as people, we look like more positive things that maybe aren't exactly how we're designed. We've just learned to be better people. So I think that's how come I can look like a two sometimes, which I think that's, I mean, I think twos are awesome. I'm so glad you

Melinda: 43:50

joined us to discuss love, and I hope someone tells you today. I love you. I hope someone shouts it loud and proud because it is definitely worth celebrating. For a little recap for our listeners, love is an Oola accelerator. Seek pure love. Love that is authentic and unconditional. Pure love has benefits that are worth the

Julie: 44:12

risk, and if it happens to not be

Melinda: 44:15

love, then love yourself enough to view it as a lesson in love, lesson being

Julie: 44:21

love yourself.

Melinda: 44:23

I think we learned if you include love in your life, you will get to the Oola life faster and the journey will be more rewarding. Hashtag Oola. Before we part ways, we would like to let our listeners know that our next episode will showcase coach Chris Kash and the topic of Oola Accelerator Integrity. Be sure to like and subscribe to life coaches in cahoots, and be sure to listen for details on our upcoming six month anniversary bonus episode. And I'd like to remind you, we are all designed by God for greatness and with purpose. And we want to truly thank Coach Jules for taking her time to share about herself and ULAs Accelerator. Love it has been a real pleasure. Until next time, stress less, feel better, and enjoy life a little more.

Julie: 45:12

Thanks, Jules. Thank you for having me